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Sunday, 17 June 2012

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Like you, I've raised a son on my own from a young age. In my case, my late wife died when our son was 7.

He turned out better than OK. He's told me I was a good dad and mom. But I still haven't received the Mother's Day card. \;~)>

Sounds like you deserve one too? You have my admiration, in any case.

Moose

Lost my first two children in 1995. Am knowingly fortunate that I have four living children. Glad you had such an enjoyable Father's Day this year, Mike. Sending kind regards to all fathers, everywhere.

Nice post Mike. You're a lucky father. I lost my dad 8 years ago, and think of him often, especially on Father's Day. Fortunately, I was able to spend the day with my father-in-law, who is a great man in his own way.

Here's to the fathers we've lost...

That's a nice gift. I started a similar project for my parents a couple (or more) years ago, digitizing their old slides. It is a regret that I hadn't completed it before my father pased away last year.

Today was the Father's day I have long dreaded - the first without my father.

Sound like a great Father's Day, Mike. My kids woke me up this morning by holding a flashlight up to my eyes and yelling TRAIN!! Later in the day, they poured paint stripper on the hood of my car. My Wife cooked a Stouffer s chicken pot pie for me, which would have been cool except I never eat those for breakfast.

I sense you have a great story to tell Mike.
One about parental responsibilities while at the same time overcoming personal challenges. It is a great victory that many of us could learn a great deal from.

Talk about unsung heroes, all the parents who raise their children with love giving with all their heart and making their very best efforts.
I think children don't expect perfection from their parents but they always hope for and recognize their parent's love.

Speaking of parenthood and remembering ones own parents.

Right after my mom had passed away, and ten years after my dad had passed away, I went back to my hometown. By the way, all of this happened almost 20 yrs ago.
Over a period of a couple of days I sat down with my uncles and aunts that were still alive. I talked to them about how they grew up in the early years of the 20th century. These talks were recorded on tape and have a tremendous value now.
Soon after my interviews with them two passed away very quickly. Had I hesitated doing this trip they would never have told me their stories.
Over the couple of days I was there I learned so much about the upbringing of my father. Regrettably I was too young and to far away to ever sit down with my father and record his voice and his own stories.

So my advice is, speak to you parents and your older relatives before it is too late. They have much to say.

I know I'm not the Ed K. mentioned in your post but, having lost a teenage daughter to cystic fibrosis, I'll pretend I am. You're right that the love - and the feeling of loss - never leave.

Thanks Mike, and Happy Fathers Day to you! Mine was pleasent, too, with some cards, a carrot cake, and all of us going kayaking on the historic St. Joe, A nice dinner, including the teens current beau, who despite being a SL Cards fan, is a very nice young man.

Fathers and Dads. Without them we wouldn't be.
As a single unmarried male by choice, often look at others on such days and think "if only."
I lost my Dad in 1982, my Mum a year ago tomorrow June 19. So now no immediate family.
Have a younger brother and his family in Texas who'd realy not care to associate with me or my kind.
Bottom line; enjoy what you have; now, for it shall not always be so.

Happy belated Father's Day Mike. I was for many years a single parent as well. What a great gift from your son. It speaks volumes.

Father's Day occurs on many different days around the world.

Personally I don't like the idea of these types of days. The best Father's Day is his birthday. Even after his death. I can remember my Father this way and both my Grandfathers too. Of course I remember them on many other occasions, and many other times which are not 'occasions' at all when they just come into my mind.

Thanks Mike! My younger son Kevin called today and amongst other things, he told me he thinks he "hit the jackpot in the Dad lottery". Sure is an awfully nice thing to hear even if it's not quite true... I know I did hit the kid jackpot for sure with both of them. Glad you had a great day too.

Ed Knepley,
You're included, absolutely. Very sorry to hear of your loss.

Mike

Wonderful post, Mike - thanks! And thanks for bring me back to reality about what really is important in life (*not* politics, as I sometimes forget.)

You've got a great son Mike. Likewise, Xander clearly has a great dad.

Banana Cream Pie and Root Beer Floats for me
yesterday from the family, I am truly blessed and most certainly grateful for what it represents...(not to mention how it tastes...!)

best wishes

Mike,

In your column that's now at the time of the page (The Basic Requirement of the Box) you sold yourself short about your disinclination to "pursue" anything for long. I beg to disagree.

You pursued being a father -- a quite successfully, it would seem. Parenthood, done well (or at least, thoroughly) takes time and energy. Often, all we have. You might find yourself surprised at this next season of life coming upon you. May you experience a burst of creativity such as you never would have believed possible.

All my best,
d

Great post, Mike. All the best to you and your son. This was my first father's day. This post put everything in perspective. Thanks.

I've got a sign on my office door, a 1950's era illustration with a mother and swaddling infant. Caption: The First 40 Years of Parenting are always the hardest. Which I thought was amusing until my 3 were in their 20's! Belated Happy Father's Day!

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